ASK AMY: Mask request brings on ridiculous reactions
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Do you have any words of wisdom for those of us still working in an office on handling the various attitudes and personal responsibilities to one another during this time?
— Don’t Judge Me
Dear Don’t Judge Me: If you don’t want to be harshly judged, then don’t be reactive and judgmental, yourself.
Your co-worker’s smoking and drinking habits when she is at home have no bearing on your health – and you know it.
Your travelling could (conceivably) have a bearing on hers – and others’ – and you know that, too.
My advice to people sharing office space is to comply with the local, statewide, and companywide guidelines.
My advice to people wrestling with how to behave toward others who are at risk, nervous, anxious — or outright neurotic about contracting COVID — is that the people who are physically and mentally healthier should adjust their behaviour to the level of the most vulnerable.
It’s no fun, and sometimes (as in your case), you can feel manipulated, disrespected, or wounded.
Your co-worker’s mask request was reasonable. Your defensive response was ridiculous, as was hers! At last, common ground.
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been through a lot of ups and downs over the years. Despite having a one-year-old child together, the topic of divorce has come up more than once, but we’re still hanging in there.
Regardless, at the end of the day, every wife wants to hear her husband say, “Babe, if I had to marry you all over again, I’d do it in a heartbeat.” But I know that he genuinely does not feel this way. And because of that, I feel less secure. Should I be worried?